QUIZ: Is He Cheating On You?

Do you have a cheating husband? Find out by answering the following questions and reviewing the Answer Sheet.

I believe that my husband:

1. Feels he can communicate well with me
   

   Agree

   Disagree

   Strongly Agree

   Strongly Disagree

2. And I share the same values and/or interests
   

   Agree

   Disagree

   Strongly Agree

   Strongly Disagree

3. Feels I am caring and thoughtful toward him
   

   Agree

   Disagree

   Strongly Agree

   Strongly Disagree

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Cheating Signs: How to Identify Infidelity

You may have heard how to tell that a man is cheating, or maybe you can imagine what the signals might be … Here are the main clues you want to be acutely aware of.

Warning Signals of Infidelity

My research asked men to detail the warning signs they thought they gave their wives that hinted or told them they were close to an infidelity. I then asked them for warning signs that they were involved in infidelity.

• He Spends More Time away from Home: 55 percent said more time spent away from home was a sign that they were close to infidelity, and it went up slightly to 61 percent when they were involved in infidelity. What’s quite fascinating is that the majority of the men started spending more time away from home before they cheated. This warning sign and the ones below indicate not only that your husband is cheating but are also a precursor to his cheating. If you can catch the signs in time you might avoid the pain of infidelity and be able to repair your relationship. It’s equally telling that during the affair 61 percent of the men spent more time away from home. Sometimes men will tell their wives to trust them because” I could cheat during my regular day if I wanted to.” Although it’s true that you can’t possibly keep tabs on your husband’s whereabouts during the workday, it still seems that cheating men find extra time to slip away from home, and not just during work hours. When you start to notice that your husband is spending less time at home, watch out and find out what’s going on with him. It’s worth discussing and trying to get him to articulate any dissatisfaction he may have in his life that causes him to want to spend less time at home or what new development has caused this sudden wanderlust. Remember, it’s not proof that he’s cheating, but it’s pretty clear that he’s close, and there should be no waiting on talking about changes to make your marriage better quickly …

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Are You Pushing Him Into the Arms of Another Woman?

According M. Gary Neuman, author of THE TRUTH ABOUT CHEATING, the number one reason why men cheat is emotional dissatisfaction. Only 8% of cheating husbands cited sexual dissatisfaction as their reason for infidelity. Men claimed they didn’t feel “appreciated” or “wanted” or that they found themselves in a “no-win situation.” This feeling of under-appreciation and lack of thoughtfulness far outweighed any other reason for infidelity.

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Cheating Men Confess: What Sort of Marital Dissatisfaction Contributed to My Infidelity?

48%—Primarily emotional dissatisfaction
32%— Equal emotional and sexual dissatisfaction
12%—Other/no dissatisfaction
8%—Primarily sexual dissatisfaction

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Secrets of Successful Marriages

Here’s a simple secret that I’ve shared with thousands of couples in therapy and in my seminars: successful couples accentuate the positive and diminish the negative, and failed couples accentuate the negative and diminish the positive. Failed couples tend to think that their failure is justified because of the spouse they married. They perceive successful couples as having an easy life, less stress, and fewer issues than what they’ve experienced. This is the number one falsehood of the failed couple. Successful couples shoulder just as many issues, whether they be financial hardships, work – related stress, childrearing issues, illnesses, and challenges with in – laws, but their system of dealing with it is an extremely different model, and that’s what makes them successful.

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Cheating Men Confess: What Sort of Marital Dissatisfaction Contributed to My Infidelity?

48%—Primarily emotional dissatisfaction
32%— Equal emotional and sexual dissatisfaction
12%—Other/no dissatisfaction
8%—Primarily sexual dissatisfaction

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